Living in the Mundane

by Johnny Fusilier

My wife and I have five young children ranging from three to eleven years old. We both work, are involved at City Church and in our community, and have a large extended family in the Houston area. It feels like there is always an event to attend or a family member to visit. Our calendars can be so full that we forget to make time for those closest to us. A few years ago, I decided that we were going to make the best of some of the mundane parts of life together, both at work and at home. Specifically, I wanted to be intentional during commutes with my family and moments together, and while teaching. 
 
I am an elementary school PE teacher, and I like to call myself the “fun teacher!” Teaching can be repetative at times, especially when I teach the same or very similar lessons to five classes a day. Most of my students would be considered economically disadvantaged and many don’t have a father at home. I try to be intentional with my students, and get to know a little about their lives. I try to notice a new haircut, or ask about their football games, any small thing that will help them open up and feel seen. This not only helps me stay engaged, it helps me to stay connected to my students and their families. 
 

I get off of work at 3pm and make it just in time to pick up my five year old Judah from the car line.  Judah and I have an hour until we get the three oldest from their after school program and then the three year old from daycare. Judah loves to play outside, so most days we go to the park or stop by Nana and Pawpaw’s house to ride bikes or play with their dogs.  Some days he is “very hungry” so we go to ALDI and he is able to pick any snack he wants.  To me, it really doesn’t matter what we do: we have an hour to spend together, and we are making memories.

Once all five kids have been picked up, we have a fifteen-to twenty-minute drive home. It would be easy for me to turn up the music and not engage. But most days we play games, sing songs, tell stories, or ask each other questions on our drive. I’ve made up games and a playlist for car karaoke. My children dance, sing, and enjoy these moments. I have set my mind to be intentional in the mundane things of life and to try to make the most of my time with my kids. There is beauty in the mundane. I see this as my son raps and my daughter giggles on our way home. All of these small moments are beautiful, God-given moments.

I try to regularly take my kids to do something they like. It looks different for each of them. Some days we go to the park or we go fishing. Some days it’s a University of Houston sporting event or we get snow cones. And some days it’s going to the public library or a community event. The common theme is that we are together! I am trying to do my best as a father. Some days are better than others, but I strive to be present.

Our oldest is eleven and it seems like just yesterday that we became parents. I am reminded of James’s words: “What is your life? For you are a mist that appears for a little time and then vanishes” (James 4:14). Knowing this, I believe I must invest my life in things that will have ripples into eternity. I am not a perfect parent or a perfect teacher and I fail daily, but in these small, mundane moments, I hope that my children and the children I teach will see God’s love and beauty.:

Author
Johnny Fusilier
Date
April 18, 2022
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